It can seem like an overwhelming and daunting process when you start the search to find your biological family. Whilst it is an exciting time, it can also be confusing or overwhelming, so it’s important to make sure that you have a support system around you to help you every step of the way.
Below are a few helpful steps which you can take to make this process a little bit easier.
- Ask your parents
When your parents adopted you, they may have received some information from your adoption agency about your birth parents, and your background. This means that they may know information such as the last place on record where your biological parents were living, whether you had any siblings, and the circumstance in which you were adopted.
This part is completely dependent on you and your situation. For example, what age you were adopted at, or whether you biological parents kept in contact with your biological parents. However, your parents may have the key information you need to begin your search.
- Access your adoption records
Whilst this isn’t always as straightforward as you would like it to be, it’s a great avenue to explore. Different states have different procedures with confidential documents like these, and in some states these are easier to obtain than others. Simply search the state you were adopted in and see if these records are available.
Although it may draw to nothing, it is definitely worth checking whether you can access these documents as they could provide you with more information about yourself and your biological family. If you cannot access these documents, a company which specialises in finding biological family may be able to instead.
- Contact the agency you were adopted through
The agency which your parents adopted you through may still have your records stored, but it depends how long they keep these for. This could be a good option to help you find some more information which will aid your progress in your search for your biological family.
They may also be able to tell you whether there were any other children which your biological parents gave up for adoption through them, and whether there may be a possibility that you have other siblings. Obtaining information such as this depends on their own privacy rules.
- Be mindful when using information you’ve gathered
If you’ve got some basic information and you begin looking on social media for biological family members, you need to consider their privacy. If it’s been hard for you to find them, then they may not want to be found.
Also, not everyone has social media, and some people who have it, decide to keep their accounts very private. If you were thinking of messaging the account you’ve found which you think is them, you should consider the outcomes of following through, especially as it may not be their account at all.
It’s also important to remember their privacy and that they may not want to be contacted or found. This is why we would recommend using a specialist business who works with people to find their birth family, as they are experts in this process.
- Come to The Adoption Specialist
The Adoption Specialist are experts in bringing biological families together and we have reunited thousands of families that were separated through adoption and relinquishment. Our practices are ethical and confidential, and we provide ongoing support for you throughout the process.
You can expect us to exhaust all legal methods to achieve your goal as well. Upon concluding the search, we will give you the most current name, address, and other significant information about the person you are looking for. To get started you’ll need to complete either a Locate Your Child Form or a Locate Your Parent Form. If you would like some more information or have any questions, please feel free to contact us and we will be happy to help you.