When people tend to think about finding their family, they think of the end goal. Finding their loved one, building a relationship with them and having them as a permanent fixture in their life. This is the ideal ending, but it’s just as much about the journey as it is the result.
There are many questions you may ask yourself along the way, which are totally normal and allow you to come to terms with what is happening.
In this piece, we’ll be covering some of the questions you may be asking yourself on the journey to finding your family.
How am I meant to feel when I find my parents/child?
It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to feel when this happens. Some people report feelings of immense happiness and overjoyment, whilst others feel confused and scared. It’s about being prepared for how you might feel and taking it in your stride.
If you feel overwhelmed by the situation, just know that there are people who can help, and assist you in understanding more about why you are feeling this way. Just remember that just because you’ve found them, doesn’t mean that you have to meet them straight away.
This is your own personal journey.
Can I stop searching for my birth family?
If at any point you make the decision to either pause or stop the search for your family, that is perfectly fine. It may not be the right time in your life to find them now, but you might change your mind in a few months or years.
It’s important to know that if you would like to try again at any point, the option is there. It may just be that you need a little extra support during the process, or that you need some time to come to terms with the journey you are on.
When is the best time to search for my birth family?
Believe it or not, there isn’t a “best time” to begin the search, it’s just when you feel comfortable too. Depending on your age, you may be more keen to start your journey now as you have to consider the age of the people you are searching for.
Whenever you decide it is the right time, it is the right time. You have to remember that this is also an emotional journey just as much as it is a physical journey to find them.
When I find my birth family, do I have to meet them?
The majority of people do want to meet their birth family, whether it be to reconnect, or o ask any questions they need to get off their chest. For some people though, they might prefer to have a relationship with them over the internet. This way they can still be in contact with them, without physically meeting them.
You may want to wait a while before meeting them as it is a big decision to bring them into your life. It may be a case of getting to know them online, and then meeting them. But it is perfectly fine that when you find them, you don’t want to meet them at all.
I want to start searching for my birth family, what next?
Here at The Adoption Specialist, we work with you to help find your biological family. It’s super easy to get started, simply fill in either a Locate Your Child Form or a Locate Your Parent Form and we will begin the process for you.
We have spent years reuniting people with their parents, siblings, and children and we are passionate about helping you find your loved ones. You can read our testimonials to hear more from people who have been reunited.