So you’re on a quest to find your birth family and you’ve started with the first step – taking a DNA test. You’re off to a great start, but knowing which steps to follow next can be tricky.
It’s crucial to take a DNA test at the beginning, as this is easily the most beneficial step. When the results come through it can be tough to decipher all the information, so getting an adoption specialist can help reduce stress and determine the next steps you need to take.
From taking a DNA test, there is no way to know what DNA matches you will get as it depends on many factors, but mostly it depends on whether any close biological relatives will have tested, and potentially if they tested with the same company that you did.
Although extremely rare, some DNA testers have found their birth parent just through their DNA test results. In the many years of working to reunite birth families, these cases are few and far between, but that’s okay. This is where we, the adoption specialist can help you further.
Step 1 – Do you recognize anyone in your DNA match list?
To begin, this may sound like an obvious starting point, but this very rarely happens. Be sure to check your DNA match list and see if you recognize anyone on there.
The reason you should do this is that not all biological families can be put into the same category. For example, adoptees looking for both parents compared to adoptees looking for just one parent as they already know the identity of the other parent they never knew.
If you don’t know the identity of either birth parent, then it is still worth checking over the list to ensure no stone is unturned. After all, you never know who you might find you’re related to!
If you know the identity of one of your parents, you may recognize a few distant relatives on the list. From this, you will get a better understanding of which matches are on your unknown parent’s side of the family.
Step 2 – Ignore the relationship estimates
Every DNA testing company will give you their best guess as to how you are related to your DNA matches. Many of them are not very accurate. The only exception to this is the parent/child relationship. If a person is marked parent/child at the top of your list then you can put your trust in this result as it is most definitely not an estimate – it’s science!
The key takeaway when looking at the estimates is the more distantly related you are to someone, the more ways in which you could be related. So, be sure to take relationship estimates with a pinch of salt.
Step 3 – Ask for help
If you find your DNA results to be too confusing and are struggling with where to begin, try messaging one of your DNA matches. They could have already done some crucial family history research that they’d be willing to share with you.
A personal mission from the company founder, Lisa, is to make sure that they have someone fighting their corner. There are many benefits of using the adoption specialist, with the main advantage being that we are a highly professional and confidential service.
Choose the Adoption Specialist to Help Find Your Birth Family
When searching for your birth family, it’s important to remember that you are not alone. The adoption specialist is here to guide you through the process, every step of the way.
For more information on how to find your birth family, fill out our search form or contact (562) 438 6589 today!